Once upon a time, you said “I do.” Whether it was months ago or over fifty years ago, you likely said and meant your vows because, above all, you really enjoyed every moment of life spent with the person across the altar from you. You anticipated many, many more days of love and laughter, which you’ve had… likely along with some incredibly busy seasons of work, children, moves, stresses of life, and on and on and on. And if you’re being honest with yourself you can freely admit that there have been some times (gasp!) when enjoying life with your spouse wasn’t your top priority. Perhaps, in the tougher seasons, you’ve wondered how you could rekindle some of the friendship and quality time that was so prevalent many, many moons ago when every moment spent together was pure exhilaration.
That’s where The Marriage Project: 21 Days to More Love and Laughter comes in. I love reading, I love projects, and even more than that, I love convincing my very busy husband to do things like compile long lists of all the reasons why he loves me. (Which is something I assume he was already doing in his spare time, of course.) The Marriage Project is exactly what it claims to be — a book that lists twenty-one projects for husbands and wives to complete together over the course of three weeks, spending time building greater friendship and affection towards one another in the process. I was fortunate enough to receive a free copy from Harvest House Publishers (thank you!) and went through the twenty-one projects with Wes, who was an AMAZING sport. (Date nights with steak dinners, action movies, and NO children will do that to a guy, you know.)
“Intentional” is the key word that Lipp brings to mind again and again, as she outlines three weeks’ worth of projects for you and your spouse to complete. While many of the suggestions are likely activities that spouses are already doing (like completing a household chore together, having a movie night, working out together, etc), the overall spirit of the book is that we should be intentional and deliberate about how we choose to interact and spend time with our spouses. Using humor and drawing from her own experience as a busy mother/wife/author, Lipp presents each of the twenty-one suggested activities along with a short description of the different ways you can complete each project. The great theme of the entire project is intentionally and purposefully carving time out of your schedule every day for one-on-one time with your spouse — something that every couple, no matter how long they’ve been married, can certainly use.
Wes and I are in a great season of our marriage — it’s called both of our children are almost potty trained, everyone sleeps through the night, and no one spits up formula anymore. Even in this great season, we benefited from the outlined activities, finding that often the simplest tasks helped us to get to know one another even better and find ways to encourage one another one a daily basis. I would recommend The Marriage Project to any couple who wants to build a stronger, healthier marriage. Go and buy a copy — you won’t regret it! (And, wives, if even the promise of steak dinners doesn’t get your husband onboard, you might look into Kathi’s other book, The Husband Project: 21 Days of Loving Your Man — on Purpose and with a Plan.)
And because I’m all for happier marriages (who isn’t?), I’m going to buy a brand new copy of The Marriage Project for one lucky commenter. To be entered in the drawing, simply comment and tell me what activity you most enjoy doing with your spouse. (And keep it G-rated, folks. My grandmother reads this.) I’ll announce the winner next Monday at noon!
8 thoughts on “The Marriage Project”
I love just hanging out with him since he's not always home – gone half the week makes you appreciate your time together more! =)
Thank you for this opportunity. This really opened up some good dialogue between my wife and me. There are many activities, that my wife and I enjoy together. We enjoy going to the mall and walking around, just the two of us, we have fun going to Ren-Faires, and we enjoy some pamper time after a long day. Usually, we will sit and talk while I attempt to paint her nails or give her a back massage. But, to tell the truth, I think that one of the things we enjoy most is cuddling up to a good book together. We haven't done it in a while, but we used to read aloud to each other. That is a habit we need to get back into. Your poll has even got me to consider killing the cable in favor of more books. Thank you.
Ooo! A contest! Sweet!
Ok, no, really, I enjoyed your blog. Things my husband and I enjoy together: working out, cuddling to watch a movie, going places (errands, movie, church, etc) and walking hand in hand, working in the garage on a project together (ex: he was cutting out wood figurines and I was painting them during Christmas time).
My favorite part of the week is the weekends because that's when jay and I are together the most. 🙂
My favourite activity with Jurgen is sight seeing, travelling and movie nights. But if I had to choose one of the three it would be sight seeing. Seeing new places and having someone to share it with is the cherry on the cake.
I looked at this book and it looked like fun! So hey, I'll take a shot at winning. 🙂 I love to go out to eat with Kev (no kids!)….we have the best talks over dinner. That's one thing I miss about our pre-kid days, but I love our babes so much I wouldn't trade it…..we just have to be a bit more creative of how we get our chat time in with two small ones.
His ability to see things from a different angle when presented.
Ooh I want to win the book… my favorite activity with my wife is talking theology!
ha^. your hubby is funny. i dont think his entry should count!!! 😉
i love cuddling up to my honey in bed after a long day. i also love when just the 2 of us (or even 3 of us at this point) get a little bit of alone time to ourselves (dinner, movie, time at home, etc.) but i also enjoy when the whole family gets out to do some shopping or other fun activity- anytime with phil makes me (and the kiddos) happy. 🙂