About a month ago, I blogged about a book called The Marriage Project. Wes and I had gone through 21 days of “marriage projects” and reported back that the book was a great tool for husbands and wives in all stages of marriage. We really enjoyed the book and made a lot of fun memories while going through the projects. Soon after, I was given the opportunity to read and review Kathi Lipp’s book The Husband Project, and I’ve just completed going through the book and all of the projects.
And can I tell you something? I think I enjoyed this one even more!
Kathi’s book delivers just what it promises — three weeks of “projects” for you to complete in order to gain greater communication, fellowship, and intimacy with your husband. Each project is laid out clearly and thoroughly, along with suggestions for completion, testimonies from other women who’ve gone through the projects, and encouragement from Kathi. Don’t pick up this book assuming that you’re going to make HIM the project because more often than not, the projects call you to make changes in your own attitude, outlook, and heart as you seek ways to encourage, bless, and edify your spouse. You’ll feel like you’re the one who was changed through the process! The main theme is being intentional in spending quality time with your husband and putting quality effort into your relationship, things that can be overlooked and forgotten in the busier times of life.
Kathi suggests that you keep the projects a secret from your husband, but if you’re like me and have a three year old who is only too happy to tell her Papi what all Mommy bought him at the store to surprise him with (grr!), you might find that he’s just as thankful for the effort, even if he’s not taken totally by surprise by that pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough after a long, hard day at work. I found that the simplest projects — a note to thank him for all the hard work he does and how he leads his family spiritually — were even more meaningful than the more elaborate projects, like having his favorite German chocolates shipped to our house. (Actually, I think he was more excited about that one than any of the others. And who can blame him?) As I went through the projects, I began to see more ways on a daily basis to encourage him, which is the greatest and most valuable lesson I’m taking from this book. (And I had so much fun figuring out ways to surprise him!)
I have a brand new, FREE copy of The Husband Project to give away, thanks to Kathi Lipp! If you would like to be entered into the drawing, just leave a comment answering this question — if you were going to buy your husband a pint of Ben and Jerry’s, what flavor would you get? (Click on the link to check them out!) I’ll draw the winner early Friday morning!